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Hello Doug, I live in France and I'm the father of a 5 and a half years old girl. I accidently saw your documentary film last night on Arte (french/german channel). I cried a lot, alone on my sofa after midnight. I think you've made such a beautiful job with this film and I really want to thank you for sharing this. I hope that your daughter, your wife, your dad and everyone are proud of you.
I found your blog googling your name on the web because I would like to buy the DVD of that documentary and offer it to people around me.
Again, thank you very much and all the best to Lucy in her studies and life.

Thanks, Nicolas. Lucy graduates next month from college, if you can believe it! Time really does fly. So enjoy every moment with your daughter as she grows up.

hi doug !
as nicolas, i discovered by chance your film on arte ( ah ! great french and german agreement !), last morning ! weird moments, sometimes - when you can't stop question lucy, in particular,i think - but great emotions, always ! a really clever editing... so touching, that last scene w/ your father... and in the end, your heartbreak is ours(even if we don't have child).
but french title: "lucy quitte le nid" (lucy flies the nest) is not so right that "kids grow up": because her growin' up is your own worry, isn't it ? more than a simple move...
an intense movie, sure...
greetings from france !
(hope my english is not so bad !)

Thanks, Bertrand. Yes, "The Kids Grow Up" is a better title because it implies I'm one of the kids. In fact, I call the film a double coming of age movie. Anyway, very glad you were touched by it.

Hello !
Merci Doug pour ce film d'une tendresse et d'une humanité touchante
Merci à Lucy et à sa maman pour leurs dons...
Félicitation et je vous souhaite tous le bonheur du monde...

Hi Doug!
Like all the others did, I watched your movie coincidentally about two weeks ago on German TV. I was really touched and fascinated, and although my stepbrother was annoyed by the emotions and kept trying to change the channel, I couldn't help but try to convince him about your movie "The Kids Grow Up" (which in German is called "Learning to live") and finally even get him to argue with me about your ideas and methods - what a success! Yes, I shed some tears. I think you did an amazing job and I can only wish for Lucy to realize what gift you made her in the end. I totally get the embarassment and anger she felt when you kept filming but I still envy her. I wish my father would have that much interest in me and I wish one day I could show my future children where I came from. Even better: I wish I had a movie like yours about my mother, so that I could get to know her! I am 26 now and lost my mom and sister in a car accident when I was 7. My dad is a workaholic who doesn't notice who I am. And I have no memories about the time before their death. I think that makes my perspective a little clearer... And if that is not enough praise for your recent movie yet, let me say at last that it even inspired me to start writing a book. It's an idea I've had for a long time but for the first time I've actually started typing... The way you captured emotions in your pictures, even though sometimes they were silent (and I believe that's what you also tried to tell Lucy in the interview afterwards), was breath-taking and so expressive. Thank you, Doug, for inducing new thoughts, for showing me a new perspective on life as a parent and for the courage to share the intimacy with your family! I hope to do the same with written words one day. Until then, I'm going to try to buy your movie somewhere and dream about all the possibilities I would have had if only someone would have done the same for me.
All the best from Germany,

Thank you, Jessica. That's very gratifying praise, it doesn't get better.

I don't know where in Germany you live, but I'll be in Berlin on July 17 and 18 to show both 51 Birch Street and The Kids Grow Up at the Arsenal and to speak afterwards. Would be great to meet you.


I just watched "Kids"on HBO and all I can say is wow. I am 27 now and I remember when I went off to college. I was 17 at the time. It just brings up a whole bunch of memories and emotions that I was too young to understand at the time, or maybe I was too naive. I guess what I'm trying to say is that your movie showed me what my parents went thourgh when I left. I had/have no idea because I dont have children myself, but you did such a wonderful job that I felt what it was like to be in your shoes even without having kids of my own. I guess you gave me the ability to see the emotions through my parents eyes. I'm not the kind of person to make a post but your film inspired me to do so. Again, great job on the film. You have a new fan!

I came upon this film on hbo on demand. Mid movie, I realized I had seen 51 birch st at a film festival years ago and this was the same family. This film touched me as a parent and a child. Bravo for another excellent movie.


Just watched your very touching movie, it really helps me fast-forward as I am a father of ten and twelve year old girls. I gave up my career 10 years ago to be a stay-at-home Dad and am comforted with my decision because of your movie.

Listening to your interest in Lucy's dreams and being so sensitive to her during filming shows what a great father/person you are.


Jim in Chicago

Thanks, Josh, Bobi and Jim for all your very kind words about the film. It's much appreciated.

If you have a moment, and if you're a member, I'm wondering if you could go to Netflix (and/or Amazon) and leave a customer review on The Kids Grow Up page. Even a short one would be hugely helpful.

Thanks again!

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